What is love???? Abuse is not love, love is not abuse... How to tell the difference?

Originally published on Squidoo on 05/29/09 by Boshemia Define love… If you ask 100 people what love is, you will get 100 different answers. Love means so many different things, love is defined by who we are, where we come from and what we were raised to believe. It comes from ourselves, our families, our culture. I have always been partial to this definition… Love is patient, love is kind. It

Zoloft and Paxil and Buspar and Xanax... Depakote, Klonopin, Ambien, Prozac... Ativan calms me when I see the bills— These are a few of my favorite pills.

Behold! A theme song for those of us who have felt closer to our doctors than we have our own family at one point or another. This song is for those who had to carry an extra purse just to contain all of their meds. This is a song for anybody who has ever found themselves playing pharmaceutical roulette… If anyone has ever asked “Who’s crazy…” and you have raised

Ludwig Von Beethoven, composer, performer, child abuse survivor...

It isn’t easy to confirm whether or not Ludwig Von Beethoven was abused as a child, because many point out that harsh discipline was not only acceptable in the 1700’s, it was almost expected. What is known is that his father was obsessed with the idea of his son becoming famous. His father was reportedly trying to duplicate the success of the child prodigy Mozart, and he began teaching Ludwig at age five. “Ludwig

Asking for help after rape easier online?

It isn’t easy for Survivors to talk about their abuse, especially when those Survivors are male. It is believed that half of all abuse goes unreported, but the anonymity of the Internet may change that. A study was done of Reddit posters, paying special attention to those made under “throwaway accounts.” The study found that people were more likely to disclose abuse for the first time, and males were far

What doesn't Fibromyalgia affect?

“It’s all in your head. We’ve all heard it at least once, probably more than once. We’ve heard it from family. We’ve heard it from friends. We’ve even heard it from doctors. It sort of does make you wonder if maybe they are right… sometimes. But it isn’t in our heads. It isn’t in our bodies either. It isn’t in our skin, or or stomachs, or our hearts either. Fibromyalgia

When all else fails, just breathe...

Step 1: Just Breathe Nothing is going right. Everything is falling apart. You feel the panic rising. Your head is spinning. Your chest is tightening. Stop. Take a deep breath. Now exhale. Do it again. Count to 10. Breathe. Set a timer for 10 minutes. Breathe. Proper breathing is important for anybody, but for abuse survivors, those with PTSD, and/or those with fibromyalgia it is crucial to your healing. Improper breathing can contribute

Dysfunctional family song Broadway style by Tory Ross

Everybody sing the dysfunctional family song!!!   Youtube video “Tory Ross performs “My Dysfunctional Family Song” at Broadway Sessions on April 18th, 2013. Join us every Thursday at 11:00PM at the Laurie Beechman Theatre, 42nd & 9th, NYC. Hosted by Ben Cameron with Joshua Stephen Kartes on piano.”

Abraham Lincoln and Mary Todd, domestic violence?

Every schoolchild in America knows the basics on Abraham Lincoln. He rose from an impoverished childhood in rural Kentucky to become the 16th president of the United States. Perhaps most famous for his role in abolishing slavery and his untimely assassination,  he also struggled with mental illness and a home life where verbal abuse was common and at least some times crossed over into physical abuse. Lincoln’s mother died when he was 9

Witnessing domestic violence in childhood linked to higher rates of suicide in adulthood

From ScienceDaily.com “Link found between witnessing parental domestic violence during childhood and attempted suicide – One in six adults who were exposed to chronic parental domestic violence during their childhood has attempted suicide…” “A new study by the University of Toronto (U of T), found the lifetime prevalence of suicide attempts among adults who had been exposed to chronic parental domestic violence during childhood was 17.3% compared to 2.3% among those